Let's face it. Being a parent is NEVER easy. Being a foster parent is even less easy. Parenting three children aged 2.5 years and under is next to impossible...especially when adding in the difficulties of fostering.
This past week, Jay and I made one of the most difficult decisions we've ever made. We alerted our agency on Monday and I feel that before the Christmas holiday all legal entities will also know.
(deep breath) We have chosen not to adopt M&M should he become available for adoption.
Please don't judge. There are a LOT of reasons. Some of them I can talk about in a public setting, some I cannot. Some are too private to tell even our closest friends.
We have agonized over this decision for three months. The moment I spoke it aloud, I knew that it was the right decision for us to continue fostering him, but not adopt him.
We love him and will miss him greatly when he leaves us. Emotions are pretty raw, please understand.
Please join with us in praying for M&M as "the system" decides his fate.
Thanks,
The Monkey Family
Hugs and lots of support and understanding from this camp. You have to do what is best for your family, even when that means very hard decisions that aren't popular or understood.
ReplyDeletePlease no meanies. You can never imagine how agonizing decisions like this are or what goes into them until you've walked this walk and done it in her shoes.
Send prayers of peace rather than judgement!